Since the very dawn of time women have questioned real love. In the beginning of a new relationship everything seems perfect. You can’t stop thinking about him, you want to be with him constantly and then, slowly, life begins to invade your newfound happiness. You begin to wonder if you truly love this man that you seem to have been so taken with. You begin to dread seeing him and may even wonder if you want to keep him around at all. So how do you know when it’s really love that you are feeling?
First of all you should understand that often what we conceive as love is simply us falling in love with our own fantasy. We fantasize about love. Women begin dreaming of love at a very young age and we often have in our minds exactly how we perceive love to be. Once we find it we are often confused by the reality of it since it may not completely match our fantasies. The best way to ensure that your fantasies are not getting in the way of real love is to throw your fantasies out the window. Going into a relationship with a preconceived notion of how it should be and how it should feel when you reach the level of being in love can cause the whole relationship to turn sour very quickly. Too many demands and expectations can often turn to resentment and even hate. If you endure this pattern over and over you may begin to believe that you will never find real love or that you may have had it at one time and let it go. If you are in constant scrutiny of your relationships you may not even recognize real love when it does come.
A better way is to just relax. Have you ever heard someone say that they found their true love at the very moment that they stopped looking? This is because they relaxed. They started to believe that real love would indeed find them someday if they remained patient. This is what you must do in order to be ready to accept real love when it does come.
In order to establish that what you are feeling is real love you must first eliminate other emotions. Counterfeit love is a feeling that many women confuse with real love. Counterfeit love includes that conception that love is a feeling only and not a way of life. The confusion of beginning of relationship excitement, dependence on someone else and mere attraction is often confused with real love. Real love does not fluctuate. It is not dependent on whether or not you meet certain standards. You do not have to do anything special to receive real love. In that regard, your partner should not have to do anything in order to receive real love from you. It just is. It does not involve feelings of rejection for not meeting certain standards or goals. Real love is completely unconditional. It is felt completely from the heart. There is no reasoning and no explanation for it. If you believe that what you are feeling is real love then you can give yourself this simple test. Ask yourself if you would still love him even if he looked different, could never again perform sexually or had other major changes to his appearance or ability to do things for you. If your answer is yes then congratulations are in order. You now know what it feels to experience real love. It’s a wonderful feeling isn’t it? Enjoy it - you deserve it.
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